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What is the “value” filament that connects your web?

January 8th, 2013

  As I was creating a new board on my Pinterest account, I was drawn to the varied images of webs found there.  As I labeled this new board “Web of Life”, I recalled an 1876 quote by Chief Seattle of the Seneca Nation: “We do not weave the web of life; We are merely a strand in it.  Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.”  I have reflected on this passage throughout my life and know that it resonates personally for me because of our interconnectedness as human beings.  Now that we are all so firmly embedded in this information age and are active participants in the “world wide web”, we are aware that our global connections have tightened.  As a matter of course today, I was in communication with a new friend in France, heard via Facebook from a friend in Denmark, and reviewed posts from all over the world.  Some of these individuals I have meet personally through my travels and others have come through commonly held values or interests.  I am quite conscious that I am weaving my own web of interconnectedness.  Not only do I accept this new reality of being; likewise, I wonder what is the thread or filament of connection that I am sending forth? 

I began internally to visualize a spider spinning her intricate web and know that she sends forth a silken filament or string from her body that weaves the web.  I was drawn into the design work and wondered how her pattern becomes so flawless.  As she is spinning her web, does nature guide the process?  Although the pattern resembles that of another spider’s web, they are not exact duplicates of one another.  I don’t believe that there is a spider template for spinning a web, although there may be one with an infinite number of variations.  Knowing that these questions of the natural world are better left to a scientist, I continue to muse on that filament of connection that assists in the development of the web pattern.

Quite simply, I ask myself: “What value(s) are you putting out there that attracts others to you?”  Is there an underlying “value” filament that you are spinning with your life and life message that serves as an unspoken connector?  Why is it that some individuals, groups, or businesses choose to “like” you and want to hear more?  Conversely, what touches you at a core level to connect with others?  Why does any person move from the state of being disinterested, disengaged, guarded, or dispassionate into a place desirous of connection?  Could that person, idea, or value that wakes another up from a seemingly “couch potato” trance be coming from your filament?  Have you ever considered that you might have that desire, ability, or passion to significantly influence another human being?  Consider it so….If you were to spend some time exploring what your unique “value” filament might be, could you define it?  A possible answer might be, I am spinning a web of positivity or a web of humor and playfulness.  Moreover, I want others to join me!

Rather than considering ourselves as isolated individuals without connection to one another, what if each of us began to live our lives purposefully building webs of connection within our families, neighborhoods, work settings, and beyond?  If our particular “value” filament is not shared among those groupings, we have a whole world out there within which to connect.  Go for it…spin, spin, spin!  Undoubtedly, your effort will have an effect on the greater whole.  We all share the basic human need to belong  and it may be your web to which others will be drawn.

  • Posted by admin on January 08, 2013 in Life Coaching, Mind, Visions
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    1. Renee  |  January 8th, 2013 at 10:24 pm

    Great article Mary. I know you are weaving a strong web of community. I love watching you in action.

    2. Dan  |  January 9th, 2013 at 1:13 am

    This is very important to me at this point in my life going from college into the real world. I have to remember to spin and weave! I do a lot of time spinning and get caught up in that and sometimes forget to weave. A quote that is really resonating with me right now is, “Doing is a quantum leap from imagining.” -Barbara Sher

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